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Dating A Japanese Man – An Insider Guide

Hey guys, my name is Yuta. I’m a Japanese blogger, YouTuber, author, etc. (I do a lot of stuff!)
You might be wondering: what is this dude doing here? Well, I recently wrote a book called “There’s Something I Want to Tell You: True Stories of Mixed Dating in Japan“.
Jasmine’s blog “Zooming Japan” has been a great inspiration to me, so I’d like to share some of the best stories with you guys!


Kala’s Story (Black American)

Kala remembers when she saw him for the first time. Back then, she lived in Kagoshima where she taught English. One day, she was practising speaking Japanese with her study group when she saw a guy with an awesome hairstyle.

‘Who is that guy?’ she asked.
‘Well, I think he lives here,’ someone said.

Their conversation turned into something completely different: a strategic meeting to work out how to meet that guy. Before the meeting was over, Kala had a plan. Her friends had different roles: inviting him to the group, giving her advice, etc. They called it “Mission Get That Guy“.
The mission seemed to go well. They managed to invite him to the group, and later Kala had a chance to be alone with him. She asked him to teach her Japanese, which was obviously just an excuse.

One day, Kala went to an international party for foreign students. The guy was there too. But when Kala greeted him, a Japanese girl came up to him and put her hand on his back. Kala was shocked.

‘What’s happening?’ she asked her friend.
‘I’m sorry, but I think the girl is his girlfriend,’ her friend said.

Kala was disappointed, but she wasn’t giving up.

‘What can I do?’ she asked.
‘Maybe you can get to know him better. What is he interested in?’
‘Do you know anything about it?’
‘Not really.’
‘Do you know Pele?’
‘What is Pele?’

Well, football is not exactly the most popular sport in the US.
After a while, Kala decided to throw a thanksgiving party and invite him. She made a special map showing the way to her house, just for him. The guy brought sweet potato balls to her party. They weren’t very popular. Feeling sorry for him, Kala started eating them.

‘Thank you for bringing them! They are very good,’ Kala said.

Soon after, she found the courage to ask him if he was still dating the Japanese girl. He said no!
By that time, he was beginning to understand that Kala was interested in him. They started dating.

‘I left Kagoshima in 2001 and went back to the States,’ Kala recalls.

That was more than 10 years ago, and now they are happily married.
When I asked her if there was any cultural miscommunication in their relationship, Kala said her husband doesn’t always express his thoughts verbally. When she suggests something, he often says ‘sss’ to show his discontent without talking about it. Kala ‘translates’ his non-verbal message to understand what he means. She calls it an ‘automatic translator’.

It’s not uncommon for Japanese men to not express themselves verbally in order to avoid conflict. I will discuss this more later.

Dating a Japanese Man Insider Guide


Sabina’s Story (Russian)

Sabina had been in a bad relationship with a Japanese guy. She had met him in a Roppongi club. He had been a host and had a lot of money, but he treated her as if she were his possession.
Sabina was a model, but the guy told her not to work. When she protested, he said he would give her 10,000 yen (about $100) a week.

When Halloween came around, he was working as usual. But Sabina wanted to see him, so she visited the karaoke club the guy owned.

‘Hey, you can’t come here,’ the guy scolded her.

Sabina was upset. She didn’t understand why he was so mean. But she couldn’t do anything about it, so she left.

Next morning, the guy said, ‘I don’t want to stay with you anymore.’

Sabina didn’t protest. She already had doubts about their future. She also had another reason to want to leave him. There was another Japanese guy who had approached her in a club, and she had been thinking about him a lot. When she broke up with the host guy, she called the new guy and started going out with him.

There was something about him that she really liked. He was a calm, nice guy. Before she knew it, they were spending time together almost daily. The new guy was very caring, and showed her around Tokyo.

Sabina still remembers the time they went to Yokohama. She found a toy giraffe and said,
‘Wow, I really like this.’
Seeing that she was excited, the guy bought the giraffe for her. She was really happy.
Then she had to move out of her flat which she shared with her friend.

‘I have to find a new place,’ she said.
‘Why don’t you live with me?’ the guy asked.

She accepted the invitation. She really liked him, and they had been spending a lot of time together. When she moved in, she already knew that he was the one for her.
On Saint Valentine’s Day, he proposed to her.
‘Would you like to be my wife?’ he said in Russian. He had learnt a little bit of Russian just to propose to her.

Fast forward to 2015, and they have been happily married for ten years. Even though the initial excitement of dating seems to have faded away, they manage to keep the fire alive.

‘My husband is best for my body and for my feelings. He knows my body,’
Sabina said.

Her husband doesn’t express his opinions much. When she asks what he wants to eat, he often says ‘whatever you can cook’. Sometimes Sabina thinks that he needs to be more expressive.

However, he does have an opinion about something. Once, they went to the cinema. They would usually see whatever Sabina wanted to see, but that time she had chosen an action film that he liked.
When the film was over, Sabina was tired. She wanted to go home.
‘What? Let’s see another one!’ her husband said excitedly.
She gave in. She wasn’t a fan of action films, but she wanted to see her husband happy.

Sabina’s husband is not the only one who doesn’t express his opinions much. But here’s something to consider: even when people look like they don’t care about anything, there are often a few things they truly care about. I think knowing what’s really important to them is the key to a happy relationship.


Lily’s Story (White American)

Lily speaks Japanese fluently and has dated many Japanese guys. When I asked her about the secret of attracting Japanese men, she said, ‘You just go for it. The best way is just to plough them over, and then they’ll have no choice but to submit.’

She met her ex-boyfriend when she went to karaoke with her friends. She started flirting with him.
‘Let’s go to your place,’ she said when everyone was leaving.
That was how they started going out together.

One day, the guy said he wanted to see her. She said yes and he took her to a park.
‘I like you, Lily,’ he said in Japanese.
Being familiar with Japanese culture, Lily knew exactly what this was: kokuhaku, or the confession of love. When a Japanese man confesses his love, it usually means that he is asking you to be his girlfriend.
Lily said yes, even though she’d always found the kokuhaku situation a bit funny. She appreciated the gesture. ‘That was a good kokuhaku,’ she said.

However, he turned out to be a very jealous guy. Every morning, she had to send him a ‘good morning’ message, and a ‘good night’ message before going to bed.
After a while, they decided to have a holiday in the States because he was living and working there. They planned to meet in San Francisco. They had actually met in the States when Lily was there temporarily. Lily had to come back to Japan, so it was a long-distance relationship. The guy didn’t speak English at all even though he lived in the States. He was just there for work.

Lily arrived in San Francisco one day earlier than him. When she arrived, she sent him a brief text, had dinner with her friends, and went to bed.

The next morning, she sent him a text.
‘Are you here? I’m so excited!’ she wrote.
It was around the time that he was arriving at the airport.
‘I arrived, but I’m leaving.’ he texted back shortly.

Lily was confused and wondered what had happened. According to him, he was angry because she hadn’t texted him after she had gone back to the hotel the previous night. She had to calm him down on the phone. She was still in the hotel lobby. It was embarrassing having to fight on the phone and cry in front of everyone. Even though they still managed to go on holiday, it was very awkward and tense. After the trip, she decided to break up with him.

‘If something was bothering him, he wouldn’t say anything, and instead, he would just get angry or sad about it,’ Lily said. It seemed that he didn’t know how to express his emotion in a constructive manner.

While I don’t attribute this tendency entirely to the culture, this is one of the recurring themes of dating in Japan.

Dating a Japanese Man Insider Guide


Michelle’s Story (White Finnish)

Michelle met Tatsuya, her first serious Japanese boyfriend, in a bar. It was Tatsuya’s American friend who talked to her first, and then he introduced her to Tatsuya. Michelle and Tatsuya hit it off well.

‘Do you want to go out sometime?’ Michelle asked. She liked him from the start.
The next Tuesday, they went on a date. They took purikura together.
Everything was moving fast. Two months later, she met Tatsuya’s family. Soon after, they moved in together.

Despite their seemingly smooth sailing, the happy days didn’t last long.
After a while, Michelle had to go back to Finland to finish her university course. During the four months she was away, Tatsuya didn’t want to talk on Skype.

When she came back to Japan, Tatsuya had changed.
First, he had made new friends. But his new friends didn’t behave well. Michelle remembers that his friends hit on her at a party, even though Tatsuya was there.
And then one of his friends informed her that Tatsuya had been cheating on her.
At first she didn’t believe his friend. But one day, she had doubts and checked his phone. His friend was right: he had been cheating on her.

That was the end of their relationship.

What kind of person was he? Michelle says that he was in a financially difficult situation.
Tatsuya hadn’t been to university and had never had a full-time job. His employment situation was unstable and he drank a lot.

He spoke some English because he had learnt it from his American friends who were in the forces. Michelle was a bit sad because he seemed interested only in American culture and didn’t care much about Finland.

I have the impression that he might be someone who has trouble fitting in with Japanese society. I would extrapolate that his intense interest in the US came from his desire to escape from reality.


Lynette’s Story (Mixed American)

Lynette lived in South Korea before coming to Japan. She thinks Japanese guys are less aggressive than Korean guys. For example, she gets approached less in Japan.
Nonetheless, she met her boyfriend in a club. He bought her a drink and they danced together.
They made out in a club. He wanted to go to a love hotel, but she said no. Instead, they went for dinner.

When he told Lynette he was Korean, she was confused. He had a Japanese name, and he didn’t speak Korean at all. Everything about him seemed Japanese. In fact, she knew more about Korea than he did. That was when she learnt about zainich Korean, who have permanent legal status in Japan while maintaining their Korean identity.

But behaviour-wise, he was more Japanese than Korean. Once, Lynette found out that he was going to a wedding the next day. She was upset.

‘Why didn’t you invite me?’ she asked.
‘Why? You don’t even like dressing up. Besides, with Japanese weddings, you have to offer some money,’ he said.

She understood, but she was still a bit puzzled about why he hadn’t invited her. At that time, she wasn’t very familiar with Japanese culture.

Apart from the wedding incident, Lynette doesn’t feel that there’s a huge cultural barrier. He has travelled widely and he speaks English well.
Her current concern is that he doesn’t communicate a lot. He is very busy with his new job and he hardly has time do to anything else. ‘You are supposed to work to live, not the other way around,’ she told him. But he didn’t say anything.

Dating a Japanese Man Insider Guide


Tips on Dating a Japanese Man

I have chosen these stories because I think they illustrate some interesting aspects of Japanese culture.

Not verbally expressive

A lot of western women comment that Japanese guys don’t express their emotions, especially negative emotions that could possibly lead to a conflict. I can understand this. I am not a big fan of expressing negative emotions either, although I try to be open about them when it’s necessary.

But Japanese men do often express their emotions non-verbally. Kala’s husband is a good example. Even though he doesn’t explicitly say ‘I don’t like that option,’ he appears hesitant.

There are many non-verbal signs of discontent: tone of voice, passive-aggressive behaviour, silence, hesitation, incomplete sentences, sudden disengagement, unenthusiastic affirmation, etc. The problem is that when the implicit messages are not understood, men can be more non-verbally aggressive, which can cause more misunderstandings. It’s a vicious circle.

Nonetheless, I don’t think understanding Japanese men is that difficult once you are used to reading their language.If you are in doubt, I think it helps to verbalize his emotion.

You can say:

  • ‘You don’t seem too happy with that. Am I right?’
  • ‘I think maybe you’d rather go somewhere else? What do you think?’
  • ‘I’m open to other ideas. Do you have something in mind?’

The trick is that you are not forcing him to express himself, but you are giving him a chance to chime in if he has something to say. Men (and women) can get defensive very fast when they feel they are under attack.

Of course, reading too much into his behaviour can be a problem. Many people simply don’t have strong opinions about everything. Again, Sabina’s husband is a good example.

Looking for signs of interest

In the examples of Kala, Lily and Michelle, the women were the ones who took the initiative in the beginning.
I think that is part of the reason that neither Lily nor Michelle think that dating in Japan is difficult. I have the impression that many Asian men believe that white women are not interested in them. This is sad, but when women show their interest, it can overcome Asian men’s fear of rejection.

I’ve met many women who don’t like making the first move, and if they like men who are more forward, I can understand that. There are certainly Japanese men who take the initiative. (I include more examples in my book.) But if you are OK with making the first move, it’s worth trying.
In my opinion, asking guys out is quite acceptable in Japan.

Being a couple in public

Lynette was upset when her Korean-Japanese boyfriend didn’t invite her to his friend’s wedding. What she didn’t know was that not bringing your date to a wedding is completely normal in Japan. In fact, not introducing your partner to your friends and family is also common when you are not engaged.

Being a couple is often considered a private matter. This is part of the reason that Japan is also not big on public displays of affection. If you think your Japanese boyfriend is not acting the way you think a boyfriend is supposed to act, I suggest you ask him about it. It can be something completely normal in Japan. Of course, you don’t have to do everything the Japanese way, but understanding the Japanese way helps.

Defining the relationship

Romantic relationships in Japan tend to be clearly defined from early on. Confession of love (kokuhaku) serves this purpose. It is something like a relationship proposal.
On average, kokuhaku seems to happen on the third date, although this hugely depends on the person. Also, as they get older, people seem to do less kokuhaku, but there are always people who appreciate the practice.

In a way, getting a Japanese boyfriend or girlfriend is easy. All you have to do is say, ‘I like you; would you be my boyfriend (or girlfriend)?’ If the other person says yes, you are officially a couple.

I feel that I haven’t presented a very good image of Japanese men. So you may ask Why would I date a Japanese guy then? Well, for the same reason that you date any man. There might be a few cultural problems, but in the end, men are men. If you like someone, go for it. Japanese men are not that difficult to understand.


If you are interested in dating in Japan, I encourage you to check out my book!

Today’s Guest Blogger:
guest blogger

Yuta Aoki is a Japanese author, blogger, YouTuber.

He writes about Japanese culture, intercultural communication, and dating.
Check out his recently published book “There’s Something I Want to Tell You: True Stories of Mixed Dating in Japan“.


“Dating A Japanese Man – An Insider Guide” is a guest post and any information and opinion is provided by Yuta. Therefore Zooming Japan doesn’t take any responsibility for the content.


  • Hi Yuta, thank you for this article! I just bought your book, I look forward to reading it.

    I always find these kinds of articles interesting because I have dated a few Japanese boys, and each one has been a very different experience. My current boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and my experience with him isn’t at all like others before. He has never been to America, but he has an independent attitude and is open about his opinions. I appreciate it so much, because we are able to communicate honestly.

    Despite that, he has some traditional values as well. I think it’s important to remember not everyone fits a stereotype! Some times people can surprise you!

    I also think it’s important that foreign girls who want to date Japanese men please forget about this myth it will be difficult for you. I know many mixed couples of foreign women and Japanese men, it is really about being open minded. Thanks to your article, hopefully more girls will feel less hesitant.

    • Thank you for your comment! I think there are plenty of Japanese men who don’t fit the stereotype. It’s just that the stereotypical ones get a lot of publicity.

      I sometimes have the impression that it’s not always easy to meet the right guy because they don’t necessarily hang out in a bar or randomly hit on you. Where did you meet your current boyfriend for example?

  • I fell for a Japanese man over the internet. He was younger than me, that worried me. I had been planing a trip to Asia, so I stopped in Japan first to meet him. It was like I knew him with out ever meeting him. We looked right at each other. Right at the door of the airport. Soon his mother offered him to be my husband. I never got to see the rest of Asia. I stayed a month with him. He show me around Japan with his father. I was so crazy about him. He was kind and caring when I was home sick on my trip.
    He came to USA for visit, and we got married. We now have been married for 5 years. First 4 years i lived in Japan. Now we are in USA Here he works part-time, but is always worried about money. I have had the same problems as you have mentioned and more. He does not tell what he wants. He gets mad and sleeps by himself and does not talk. There’s no sex, maybe once a year. He is nice to everyone and people like him here in USA. But I am not liking how he is treating me now. Can you help me understand why this might be happing.? One more thing that I noticed from start of our relationship. This maybe the most annoying thing he does! He always looking at himself in the mirror. He even likes to take his own picture ,but not mine. I feel really left out of this relationship. Please give me some cultural input.

    • Do you have any friends who are married to Japanese men or Asian men? Several people told me that sharing information with friends who are in similar situations helped a lot. If you don’t know anybody, I remember my friend mention this group.

      I can see that the way average Japanese men treat you might be different from the way the average American men treat you. Had he always lived in Japan before coming to the States? How traditionally Japanese is he? Traditional Japanese men usually don’t express their appreciations verbally. Actually, in public, praising one’s wife is considered bad manners. I wrote more about this in this article.

      Have you talked to him about how you feel? I think eventually, you need to communicate with him. If he is still young, this might be difficult without making him a bit upset or defensive. Maybe you have a friend who is good at talking about sensitive stuff? If so, I think her advice will be valuable.

      If I can give you one tip, try to be ultra-specific when you tell him about how you want him to treat you. For example, instead of saying ‘I want to feel appreciated,’ say ‘I want you to tell me I look good when I ask you how I look,’ or ‘I want you to say thank you when I give you a ride.’

      Hope this helps!

      • I really thank you for your input. I feel a little more comfortable after listening to the couple on Gaijenpod. Then after reading your explanations of Japanese cultural actions. This helped me understand much. He is 14 years younger than me, and from the old Japanese culture. Born and raised completely in Osaka Japan.
        I think this was the reason I liked him. What made me fall completely for him? He was kind , helpful, very dedicated to helping family, hard working, his parents have stayed together. While married and living in Japan he was good to me most of the time. I even noticed loving looks on his face full of respect and pride like you mentioned in your article.
        Maybe for him right now being in USA is hard for him. I will try your suggestions, and keep reading. Thank you and wish me luck.

  • First of all, thank you! I’m always looking for advice on dating Japanese men, and I love how you included a variety of women and many different situations in this article. I have not dated anyone yet (disappointing, right?) and am a little scared. I prefer not having to make the first move. Please, do you know of any sites/places/events that could lead me to someone special? I’m not sure where to start looking. Once again, thank you!

    • If I can give you one piece of advice, try making friends first. Then ask them to introduce you to more people. If you find someone you like, talk to him and let him know how you feel (you don’t need to do this directly if that’s not your thing.) If you are shy, texting him would also work, especially with Japanese men.

      As for making friends, try Meetup and find a local event you are genuinely interested in. (By the way, If you speak Japanese comfortably, you will have a lot more choices).

      No need to rush. Just try finding someone you are comfortable with and you can trust. Good luck!

  • The wedding situation is something I never noticed before, but it’s so true. Of all of his friends, my husband got married first, so I never was put in that situation, but at weddings you really only ever meet “single” people or married couples. No boyfriends or girlfriends here. I wonder if it might really have something to do with how expensive it is. 30,000yen (or 50,000 if you’re a couple) is not an amount I want to have to shell out too many times in a year.

    What my husband says about the woman making the first move: He personally would’ve never thought that I could be interested in him in that way (just think about how Asian men are portrayed in Western culture, and how rare it is to see a non-Asian-female-Asian-male relationship), so even though he was interested he’d never have pursued me. Making the first move is not shameful, just do it. :D

    • Hi Claudia! I think that the wedding situation has more to do with the general cultural attitude towards couples. You don’t often introduce your boyfriends or girlfriends to your friends that often either (it depends though.)

      I have the impression that the more gender equal the country is, the more comfortable women are with approaching men. Maybe Germany is quite egalitarian as well?

  • Hi Yuta,

    Thank you so much for this article, it was so insightful!! I actually heard about your book, and I think I’m going to buy it before my trip to Japan next month.

    It was a little refreshing to read that a black lady did get her Japanese guy in the end, so I can keep hope alive, however not being a forward woman that just goes for it in the romantic department, I think that things could be twice as hard for me… However, “Ganbarimasu!” ^^

  • I’m British and I always worry that the fact I have very pale skin and grey blue eyes, would make me seem ‘alien’ or look to different to attract a Japanese guy.
    However if I’m honest a relationship that didn’t demand public affection has always appealed to me.
    Though the Japanese culture always has as well…

    • Pale skin is considered beautiful in Japan and most Japanese women are trying hard to keep their skin as white / pale as possible. In that regard you wouldn’t seem “alien” at all. :)

  • Hi Aoki-san,

    Seems like you have the same family name as my Japanese boyfriend. By the way, I’ve read your article! And most of them are right! My boyfriend is exactly the same person as you described in this article. He acts a lot but less talking. At first, I thought it would be boring to have a Japanese boyfriend because they have this poker face on them. And I really thought it would be tiring to date a Japanese guy because I have to constantly guessing what is he thinking about. But as soon as you get into more intimate relationship with Japanese boyfriend, you’ll understand their way of thinking and acting. According to your article, you said that Japanese guy won’t introduce his girlfriend to family if they are not engage. Well,my boyfriend has introduced me to his family, so I suppose he’s about to propose me, am I right? Anyway, love your article and keep fighting! 頑張って!

  • I’m interesting in Japan and Japanese men. But it seems mostly of them like white, Latin, black or mix girls than others Asian. I mean in this case is south-east Asian (Thai,Malay,Indo,Vietnam.etc..)
    Where I’m live don’t have a lot Japanese and I do not know anyone here. How many Japanese vs others Asian girls in the real life as a couple?
    And… Sorry if this is silly question, how can I meet a Japanese guy when my area don’t have anyone yet?
    Thank you!!!

    • As far as I know there are a lot of couples where the man is Japanese and the woman is Asian. This is not as rare as Japanese man + Causican woman.
      Why don’t you try online dating sites like “J-Cupid”? :)

  • Hi! I’ve read your article. I have a problem now with my Japanese boyfriend. By the way, I’m a Filipina. My boyfriend is always sweet and shows affection in public. He even express his love for me gradually. But whenever he gets angry it turns out the opposite way. He says something hurtful words. Really hurtful words. Everything he said to me sweet things before turns out the opposite, too. I tried to understand him but everything he said to me is painful already.

    • I don’t think that this is the right place to discuss this. You should discuss this with your close friends or maybe with his friends.
      We don’t know you and we don’t know your boyfriend. I think in that regard it doesn’t matter that he’s Japanese.
      Good luck to both of you! :)

  • Hello,

    I realize my comment is late compared to the date of the article, but I’m looking for a little insight. I am a foreign woman living and working in Japan. I’ve lived here now for the past 4 months and I’ve studied abroad in Japan for a semester prior to that.

    A few days ago I was approached by a Japanese guy a few years older than me (I am 25, he told me he was 28.) I was headed to some anime shops to browse anime merchandise while waiting on a hair appointment. He started off by asking me in Japanese if I liked anime. After chatting a little, he joined me in the shops. He told me (in Japanese) that he was not like most Japanese men, that he is not very shy. In the shops he held my hand, I didn’t mind the attention from a pretty good looking guy, so I went along with it. He continued to chat and comment on things in the shop. He wanted me to link arms with him and would occasionally hug me. I know how unusual this is among Japanese men, so I was shocked the entire time.

    It got to the point where he kissed me and ultimately confessed to me after about an hour of walking around with me. I thought it seemed too fast and told him so in Japanese but he persisted and continued to ask me to be his girlfriend. I ultimately said a confused “ok.”
    We exchanged LINEs and after a few minutes he mentioned a friend of his was in town and wanted to hang out with him. I also had my hair appointment so I didn’t mind separating.

    I wanted some insight if possible as to this individual. What could his intentions be? He’s very affectionate, I tend to think a little too much, to the point where I wonder if he’s just looking for sex. But then why would he confess and insist on me dating him? He also took one or two selfies of us on his phone and later sent them to me on LINE (and also messaged me several times saying suki and daisuki with cute emoticons.) I wonder if he could potentially be a gaijin hunter and wants to use these pictures to show off to his friends? I don’t want to be negative about this but it seems a little odd, both in American and Japanese standards.

    Is any of this normal behavior? Should I be cautious, and how can I ask him what his intentions are? I can’t seem to find much information online about situations like this, so I would appreciate any advice.

    • As always, all I can say is that I’m the wrong person to comment on these things.
      However, I would back off. This seems a bit strange, but without actually knowing the person, it’s always hard to tell.

  • I work at a Japanese owned company and its a Japanese guy that I like very much but I don’t kno how to tell him.. What should I do

  • I’m so pleased to read your article but it seems too late since you posted it. Hope can get your advise for my situation. I’m Malaysian and he is Japanese. We both working in Singapore. He approached and asked for my hp number when I was on my way to yoga. Since then we start dating and most of the time he invites me to his house and cooks for me. He don’t even let me wash the dishes but I’m so frustrated that everytime when I leaves his house he won’t texts me at all. I’ve to text him that I reached home and he will only reply me with “thanks for coming”. Besides, I found that everytime I brought some fruits or drinks to his house he just leave it aside and when the next time I visit his house the things are still there at the same place. Is it any cultural issue that I don’t know? And I understand J-men are like workaholic so I’m okay that he didn’t reply msg at daytime but he takes very very long time to reply msg. The longest time can be 1-2days although the msg was read. So I started to reply his msg lesser and lesser. I’m actually sooo into him but I can’t really feel that he likes me. He is very attentive when we’re together but once we don’t see each other he is like kinda offish. He did told me that he will leave Singapore in 1-2years to pursue his dreams. I don’t know am I one of the person in his future plan. How can I know he treated me as casual or serious relationship?

    • I don’t think it’s a cultural thing that he doesn’t touch the stuff you brought over.
      Other than that, I don’t know what I shall tell you.
      There’s probably no way to really find out. Ask yourself what you really want and then ask him about it directly.

      • i experience this kind of situation now which is my J-bf didn’t text me first.. but everytime i ask him to hangout with me, he never refuse 🤔🤔🤔

  • YUTA, WTF. YUTA doesn’t just make youtube videos portraying Japanese as ugly losers who love foreigners, but now he writes dumb articles also about it and uses innocent Japanese peoples pictures alongside his racial mixing propaganda BS (this fool also on every video in the description tries to sell to foreigners his ebook about getting a Japanese partner).

    Yuta is not Japanese, he acts like a bitter Korean living in Japan who hates Japan and it’s people and constantly talks shit about them.

    I know many Japanese people and they also say that Yuta is a self hating Japanese beta who’s videos are very questionable. Yuta essentially only includes people he found in his videos that give responses leaning towards his own desired video creation.

  • Hii
    i really like ur blog, i really like japan and japanese people
    i really want a japanese guy but my bad luck i don’t know where i can find
    Do u tell me some website
    i really love to read ur blogs

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