Ever since I started the “Dating in Japan” series people kept asking me about how and where to find a Japanese partner, especially when living outside of Japan. So, I figured I should at least share my personal experience a bit.
Regular readers of my blog know that I’ve left Japan about a year ago.
So, for the first time in almost a decade I’m in the same shoes as most of my readers. How can I connect with Japanese people when I’m outside of Japan? How to get to know Japanese people?
Today I want to share my personal experience with certain websites, because I hate recommending stuff I haven’t tried myself. I hope it’ll help you in finding a Japanese partner.
How to Connect With Japanese People (Language / Cultural Exchange)
After I had left Japan I was a bit afraid that I might lose my Japanese, so I wanted to connect with Japanese people or at least people who’re interested in Japan. I found “worldfriends” to be a great resource for cultural exchange, finding language exchange partners, but also for dating. It is not limited to Japan, but you can set your profile so that you’ll find people living in Japan or with the same interests etc.
I’ve managed to get to know quite a few interesting people that way.
Registering is free of charge. In order to be able to exchange messages with others one of you needs to have a paid account, though.
Luckily the majority of people I wanted to talk to had one, so I never had to pay anything.
How to Find a Japanese Partner Online (Dating Sites)
I know there are a lot of rumors going on and for sure there are tons of scam dating sites out there.
That’s also the reason why I always hesitated to use one. I’ve known about “JapanCupid” for many years, but being the paranoid girl I am, I was too afraid to use it while I still lived in Japan. (*We once had a stalker issue at our school in Japan, but that’s a different story).
I’m so glad I registered there!
It is similar to “worldfriends”, but the main focus is clearly on dating. You can set up a “partner profile” where you search for certain things such as (“age”, “ethnicity”, “country”, “non-smoker” etc.) – and it will only show you people who match that criteria.
To be honest I didn’t expect much.
And yes, I did get a lot of mails from guys that didn’t fit my profile at all (80-year-old guy from India, anyone?), but you just can ignore these.
On the contrary, I was actually surprised to find quite a few guys that fit my profile and that were REALLY nice. And it was inspiring and fun exchanging messages with them.
By the way, the system is similar to “worldfriends”. Registering is free, but if you want to exchange and read messages from other members you need to become a paid member. Again – as a woman – I didn’t need to pay, as most guys had a paid account and that way communication was possible. As long as one has a paid account it works.
And if you find someone interesting after exchanging a few mails you can always move on to “normal” e-mail, WhatsApp, LINE etc.
Like mentioned before I’ve talked to a lot of interesting people that way. Some of them live in Japan, some of them here in Germany.
If you feel comfortable enough and are sure the other person is not a mass-murder, you can meet and see how it goes.
That’s what I did.
One Japanese guy happened to live not too far from me and so we met. Actually quite a few times. And we became very good friends.
So, I can totally see how one would find a partner through such a dating site.
Maybe I also shouldn’t give up just yet. *g*
I guess through this experience my image of dating sites also has changed a bit.
If you have difficulties finding a partner, I think they’re not too bad.
And if you’re looking specifically for a Japanese partner, but don’t live in Japan, then this might be a great option for you!
I almost forgot to mention AsianDating.com which is very similar to JapanCupid. The layout and the entire system is exactly the same, only that it focuses on people from all of Asia, not only on Japanese people.
For me personally, JapanCupid worked better as I had the feeling there were a lot more people fitting my “partner profile”. Worldfriends is definitely also a great option, especially because you can get to know people who’re not (only) interested in dating, but in cultural exchange, language partners, travel experience exchange etc.
What’s your experience with dating sites?
Have you tried dating sites before?
Have you tried any of the ones I’ve mentioned here?
Would you recommend any others?
Please feel free to share your experience in the comment box below.