Ever wondered what dating is like in Japan?
Well, then this post is exactly what you’ve been looking for!
However, if you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place.
There are tons of blog posts like that out there. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me! .gif){kind=small}
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear:
Dating Experience is Different for Foreign Women and Men
If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women. And at the same time, there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them.
You might ask yourself why is that?
Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them. For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that! They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them.
Of course, having a foreign boyfriend is also “cool” and “exotic“. Some just use those poor guys as cute little “accessories“.
The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.
For foreign women, it’s a completely different story.
Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman. Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g. stay-home moms, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.
Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.
These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself. I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this.
Dating in Japan as a Foreign Man:
As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.
At least getting one woman after another into your bed, is really easy, even if you’re quite ugly!
For some reason, Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive …..
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
All in all, it is comparably easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.
For some guys, it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy. They suffer from the so-called superstar syndrome.
Dating in Japan as a Foreign Woman:
For (Western) foreign women in Japan it’s a completely different story.
Japanese guys are often too shy or even scared and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.
As a result it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.
It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese guy, but it is still the BIG exception!
Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.
You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … or at least you don’t know the difference anymore.
It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
Differences in Relationships:
I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.
Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.
Foreign Man + Japanese Woman:
In relationships where the man is foreign, I noticed that they mostly speak his native language. Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.
I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own. Just one example is a co-worker of mine. When I asked him how he obtained his cellphone or credit card, he said his wife did everything for him. .gif){kind=small}
Consequently, a lot of foreign men in Japan don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of all the important things.
One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it! The man only gets a small allowance. He actually needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any of his own hard-earned money! Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.
Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved. I noticed that those kinds of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.
Foreign Woman + Japanese Man:
For the opposite constellation, you’ll see that in most(!) cases the woman speaks Japanese. She has studied Japanese properly or puts in a lot of effort to improve her Japanese ability even if the Japanese man can speak her native tongue.
They know how to survive in Japan even without the help of their Japanese partner who is at work most of the time anyway.
The man seems to accept that she wants to keep working even after marriage. Most of the time those kinds of Japanese men who get into a relationship with a foreign woman are more open-minded and have some experience with foreign culture because they’ve lived or studied abroad for a while. And even those who haven’t, seem to accept that there are cultural differences. So, they don’t expect the same they would from a Japanese woman.
All the couples I know of have a relatively harmonic relationship. Of course, there are enough reasons for disputes, but all in all, they seem to manage better than couples where the man is foreign.
Conclusion: Dating in Japan
There’s so much more that could be said about this topic. I’d love to discuss it with you, so get involved in the comment section below.
I’m sure everyone has their own opinion and experience with this.
All I want you to keep in mind is that as a guy you should not let it get to your head because suddenly you get all this attention from beautiful women.
And as a foreign girl you should keep in mind that your time in Japan – at least in terms of romantic relationships – could be quite lonely at times.
Read on:
- All You Ever Wanted To Know About Dating Japanese Men
- Dating a Japanese Woman: What’s It Really Like?
- Is Dating Japanese Women Really That Easy?
If you still want to read more, here are some great books on “Dating in Japan”:
- Understanding Japanese Women by Jonathan C. Richards
- How to Meet Japanese Women by Evan Carter
- True Stories of Mixed Dating in Japan by Yuta Aoki (who’s also written a dating article on my blog)
Your statement is extremely degrading and disrespectful to suggest women in Japan are easy for foreign men. This is the kind of article that will empower sick foreign men to think they can subjugate Japanese women to do anything they want. Ignorant comments within your blog will just invite unwanted advances by foreign men resulting in sexual assault that will not only happen to Japanese women here in Japan but outside of Japan as well.
“As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men. At least getting one woman after another into your bed, is really easy, even if you’re quite ugly! For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive.”
This is typical gaijin generalization.
Hello Kai,
As I’ve stated many times this series is based on my personal experience and not on facts. Plus, I always tell everyone to take everything with a grain of salt.
I do use sarcasm a lot.
It seems not everybody understand that, so thanks for pointing out your worries so that I can clarify things for you – and maybe others as well.
First of all, I’m not the one who says it’s easy to get laid a sa foreign guy in Japan. I’m just repeating what a lot of foreign guys write on their blogs.
How can I even write about that kind of experience when I’m female? Unfortunately there are a lot of guys who love to brag about their recent conquests.
A lot of my (female) Japanese friends and co-workers have mentioned how handsome they found random foreign guys that by most Western standards wouldn’t be considered handsome. I just wrote about what I experienced.
I’m not trying to be disrespectful to Japanese women. I’m not trying to degrade anybody – but if I would, then it were those guys who like to brag about how hot they are here in Japan, getting one woman after another. Those are their words, not mine!
Hm… while this article might show your experience it is indeed very biased. D:
I agree with you that there are those kind of “easy girls” also known as gajin hunters and that they would even go as far as going with some really ugly guys BUT theres a huge difference in finding an honest girl to date! :stressed:
Usually that type of girl is very shy and also not fond of her english (just like you described the guys.. it can be applied to the girls as well) also a lot of fear that the guy just wants to lay her or returns back to his country leaving her behind etc etc (could go on for ages). About the guys.. I saw a lot of japanese guys hitting on my foreign (girl)friends, they were already complaining how much they get hit on.. I don’t think there is much of difference between the sexes.. (but as you mentioned it might differ from your experience since i’ve never been in very small villages in the rural areas).
What i noticed it that as you also said the honest guy who doesnt just want to lay a girl is indeed very shy but I also blame the girls who lack the empathy for this cultural difference.
A friend of mine fell for a german girl but she didn’t notice anything although he kept asking her out all the time.
Speaking from myself, i was the one confessing to my girlfriend in her native tongue, while indeed it might have been very broken japanese at first I put a lot of effort into it while my girlfriend just knew how to greet in my mother tongue after 1y of dating (not even mentioning her skills on other languages like english). When we talk it’s only japanese the whole time. Just lately she has been trying to learn my language even just by little.
Thats why I feel a little offended by this prejudice though I do understand from where you got the idea that guys are the lazy bums not putting effort into it. I saw many american nationals who werent even able to make a proper Introduction.. or even saying anything but a konichiha that sounded more like cow and niwa “wordwise-raped in many ways”. Guys like that are at fault that the image of foreign men is so bad in japan. I would also never rely on my gf to do all the stuff for me since it would also just make me feel like a real dumb jerk. I got me my cellphone on my own the time I came to japan despite my broken skills. It took probably 5x as long as it would have been with native assistance but I think those little daily challenges are needed in order to refine not only your language ability or cultural soft skills but also strengthen your will. There are much harder hurdles and when one even walks their way around the “easy ones” they will eventually give up and return to their country.
But this is just an oppinion of a german guy, others might have other experiences as you also pointed out ;)
Oh, I totally agree with you Aru!
It would be horrible if Japan only had “easy girls”. A lot of my previous co-workers definitely fell in the category “honest girl”.
However, the girls those guys I mentioned were bragging about were mainly those “easy girls” and gaijin hunters. And with them it seems to be “rather easy to get laid”. At least according to those guys who are bragging about it.
If that’s something you can be proud of is a whole different story.
I know that it’s much more difficult to find a partner for a serious relationship – even in Japan!
I do think it makes a difference if you live in rural Japan.
In another blog entry I interviewed Western girls who are dating or even married to Japanese guys and the majority of them lives in big cities.
There are always exceptions, though. ;P
I think it’s great you were confessing in Japanese – even though your Japanese was not perfect! ^__^
I’m glad to hear that you are different from the guys I mentioned. *g*
Like I said I just met more of those “bad guys” – and their attitude annoys me, so that’s why I wrote more about them, I guess.
I was actually quite surprised about what you said about males. As a male I personally think Japanese is a way cooler language than English, so when I go to Japan, I would not speak anything but Japanese. Are you sure the males were completely dependant on the women? I’m more of a interactive kind of guy, so would that affect anything? And thanks for this post! I had the completely opposite idea, lol.
Obviously not all men are like that.
I was just surprised myself that the majority of Western men I met in Japan were like I described them.
Luckily there are others as well. Some came to Japan to study Japanese and to learn more about the culture and not (only) for the “girls”.
But the ones who don’t care much about the language or culture depend a lot on their wives. I’m not sure if they actually notice it. They probably couldn’t function well in Japan on their own.
Being interactive is always a good thing, isn’t it? ;)
Hello All,
It has been very interesting to go through all posts. Very informative indeed.
I am a white female and stayed in Tokyo for almost two years as a student, and later as a worker.
From my experience, it seems that Japanese men seem to dislike the American average girl. What does it mean? Sure I know it sounds discriminating to generalise, but we all know the cultural differences between US and Japan. The first being direct, open and up-front, second just the opposite. As for the appearance, generally tall and fully figured in comparison with the standard Japanese girl.
As for me I am not very tall, neither short, body well-proportioned, blond hair, and regarded as good looking. Even If I fit this normal standard, I have found that what “helped” me to be easily approached by several Japanese good looking guys is my behaviour. More on the Japanese side.
I am in a serious relationship with a Japanese guy since some years now.
We are living together, and he happened to confess exactly what I intuitively got some time before. Its also about manners. I would advice girls to be gentle and not necessarily pursue the man of their interest, but make him do the first step. It worked out for me.
Mind you, I don’t speak any Japanese, even I stayed there for a longer time. I think its not necessary to master the language to get into someone’s interest and eventually heart.
The best of luck to all of you,
I have been told a lot by girls that I’m a handsome young hispanic boy here in America. And I find Japanese girls very good looking. Now that I read this, now I know what to expect when visiting Japan to go bring me back a wife. When the crowd of good looking Japanese girls come after me… I will say “whoa! I’m looking for a serious relationship! Please, serious relationships only please!” Then I will see most of them walk away. The one that stays… Well I guess that’s the one thy actually wants me. I don’t play around when it comes to relationships, either it’s gonna be serious or just leave me alone cuz I don’t play games.
Be ready to see your future Japanese wife without makeup, then, Hispanic guy haha
I have read all the comments, it took about 3 hours(OMFG 30 pages of a regular book :huh: )
I am EU guy and in near future gonna travel to some contry for severals weeks(maybe more).
That topic and comments was very informative for me about relationship in jp[.
I saw different story endings, and main image of ppl exp sharing image is : If u want to find serious relations u gotta try-hard =P so there is no point to do it.
But for just *fun* tourist like me its ok.I sucreficed a whole weekend for researching about proper behavior in japan and and in fact things said here was same i read in another forums.
Thk u all for sharing ur self exp about dat stuff, its allways importat for others.
Yes, there have been a lot of discussions thus far, but I really appreciate that so many people are sharing their experience.
As you can see it’s very useful for others. :D
Maybe once you’re back from your trip you can share your experience with us as well! ^__^
Involving the way money is spent in Japan, I don’t know if that basic system would work for me. I have always believed that a certain allowance should be given to both partners, and that important things should be taken care of by, once again, both partners, despite being raised by a male Chauvinist and a female supremist, or maybe because of that reason. But all in all, I am a bit of a feminist.
On the thought of speaking a language, I would (or will) do my best to speak Japanese, partially because this is (I think) common courtesy, but mostly because I am trying to make my living as a writer, and would need to be fluent in Japanese to make a living over there.
Hi Derric,
‘Nuff said! I agree with you. I think both partners should have a say about their financial situation.
I also think it’s “common sense” that you should try your best to study the language of the country you decided to live in.
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this blog! I am a foreign woman who has been living in Japan for nearly 4 years. I have the same impressions that you do. I understand that for foreign men dating Japanese women, there are often cultural obstacles as well, but what these guys should realize is that all of those obstacles get multiplied by 100 for the foreign women living in Japan.
There was only one portion that I disagreed with: “Most of the time those kind of Japanese men who get into a relationship with a foreign woman are more open-minded and have some experience with foreign culture because either they’ve lived or studied abroad for a while. And even those who haven’t seem to accept that there are cultural differences and they don’t expect the same they would from a Japanese woman.” That was not my experience. I was engaged to and lived with a Japanese man for 2 years. He did not speak English and didn’t have much experience outside of Japan. One of our main points of contention was that I wasn’t enough like a Japanese wife would be. He was not willing to meet half way on that issue.
Also another point that I think deserves discussion in this article is the fact that cheating among Japanese men is comparatively widespread….and accepted by their wives. I’ve actually been told by Japanese women before that it would be impossible for me to be with a Japanese guy if I wasn’t willing to put up with cheating.
Hello Marie!
Thanks so much for joining the discussion. :D
Well, that’s why I said “most of the time”. Most couples I know of are like that (= the man has some experience abroad / strong interest in foreign cultures). Not all of them, though.
I’m so sorry to hear that your ex-boyfriend treated you like that.
I think everybody should be aware of the fact that there will be issues based on cultural differences if you date someone from another country. Too bad he couldn’t meet you half way on those issues.
Thanks for mentioning cheating. That would be a whole new topic.
I’m not trying to sound harsh, but it seems like a lot of Japanese women turn into a mother once they have children. They are not a wife anymore, only a mother and that’s why a lot of men cheat on them. Not trying to justify what the men do. I think social interactions, relationships and things like that can be very weird in Japan – and sometimes I just don’t want to understand them.
I would never accept such a thing and I’m sure most Western women wouldn’t either.
Cheating among japnese men are comparatively widespread…this is true
Cheating among japanese women are comparatively widespread…this is also true
I mean whenever I read poll on magazine or online news about Have you ever cheated or Have you ever considerd cheating or have you ever be cheated, ratio are equally high among Japanese male and female and maybe half the time ratio is higher among female.
ratio are often the times 30-40% among both gender
you should be ”Cheating among Japanese are comparatively widespread”
Actually I find this very sad and I don’t want to believe it. If you look at statistics about the yearly amount of sex (and satisfaction), Japan is among the lowest ranking countries. If that’s true, I wonder what is going wrong in their relationships and why they are cheating…
I talked to a male Japanese friend who told me, that Japanese people get married quite young and before they go to university, they don’t have much sexual intercourse / experience. They often don’t have enough time to choose a partner properly. If you are in a serious relationship, means you should get married. After the wedding, a lot of women stay at home, become housewifes and mothers, while husbands are home rarely due to work.
It’s not even rare to find couples that got married not because of love, but social and financial reasons.
It’s really a pity!
That – and a lot of Japanese women panic about not becoming married before they turn 30.
It seems to be common sense that once you’re over 30 and unmarried, you’re worth “less” and you’ll never get married.
A lot of my former female Japanese co-workers thought like that and now that most of them are in their late 20s one after another is getting married.
I’m not sure if it’s really “true love” or just “plain panic”.
I can imagine that after the wedding the relationship isn’t very satisfying and that’s why so many people are cheating?
Although I’ve never heard that Japanese women tend to cheat a lot.
I’not sure you understand me or not but I think most of cheating is happens before marriage,not after marriage.I think cheating after marriage would be much lower.
For example, hutamata(dating two guys/girls at the same time) are regarded cheating and it is alot more common than cheating after marriage.
And I don’t think Japanese age of marriage are that low.Yes,Lower than Your country(Germany) but higher than majority of western countries.
Japan male 30.5 female 28.8
US male 28.9 female 26.9
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage
I want to add one more type: foreign man, japanese woman:
Man is able to speak fluently … or as close as you ca get as a foreigner, and after a month or two either the woman breakes up, because he is to blunt and honest, or he breaks up because he is sick and tired of trying to hae a conversation or argument with somebody who is (presumably)(fake) brain dead.
I am a black American Sailor. I have lived in Japan on various occasions. I have dated women from Russia, France, Germany, China, Philippines, Australia, Italy…You get the point. I really love Japan and Japanese women. My wife is Japanese. I do not see Japanese women as gold diggers. I do not see Japanese women as being easy either. People take the Japanese kindness for a weakness. Easy women can be found all over the world. I have found the easiest women living in Europe to be honest… But I do not generalize…I am a faithful husband with a faithful wife…God bless Japan and its many wonderful people.
Hello there! :D
Thanks a lot for sharing your opinion and experience.
I’m very happy to hear that you have found love and are happy with your Japanese wife.
FUTURE DATING ISSUES THAT FACE JAPANESE WOMEN. I have seen over the years many men from countries where the men outnumber females travel to Japan to meet women and get married. Also, I have seen the increase of men from Jordan, India, Pakistan and Iran take short vacations to Japan to find a wife. The Japanese women need to understand the cultural background of the men that they are planning to marry. I really dislike Japan becoming a place where guys come to find brides that they cant find elsewhere. Japan is a popular destination because a poor guy from a third world nation can marry a Japanese woman knowing that her parents will send money to her. I have met asian brides in third world nations who had no clue that there husband could have three wives. I really hope that the Japanese dating sites would address this issue. Inform the women of Japan.
Hello Rainy Day,
Thanks a lot for addressing this kind of problem.
I don’t think that Japanese women fall easily to that kind of “scam” to be honest. Most parents are very skeptical if their daughter wants to marry a foreign man.
I’ve never heard or read about this issue here in Japan, so I wonder if it’s really a problem here at all.
Good evening! ¡Buenas tardes!
I find the article interesting to be honest. I am a 24 year old Mexican man engaged to a Japanese girl. Although I am average height, I am of athletic build, dress smart like many Mexicans of a middle class background as fashion is important for Mexicans, have olive skin and predominantly European (Mediterranean) facial features although I also have a couple Amerindian facial features, and I have been told I am handsome various times though I never brag about it.
I met my fiance online, and she is moving to my country at the end of October 2014. So far, we enjoy our chats on Viber or Skype, and only had one argument and two cultural misunderstandings, which it is natural as it happens in all romantic relationships cross-cultural or not. Just like in some aspects I am different from other Mexican men, my girlfriend is different in some aspects from other Japanese girls. Everyone is an individual.
But the key point in here is maintaining good communication always, and my fiance and me always maintain it all the time as we both care about each other´s feelings, and I asked her when I start to get to know her what she expects from a man and vice versa, and we both agreed on what we look for, but most importantly, if there is a cultural misunderstanding or any type of misunderstanding for that matter, we are willing to compromise and be in a middle ground.
From what my girlfriend told me, she did mention that Japanese men are cold. She does admit that she likes how Latino and Mediterranean men are warm, passionate, romantic and affectionate type of men, even more than other Westerners such as Americans or Nordic people
I am teaching her Spanish and she does a great job, and I am learning some Japanese phrases on my own, and I would like to learn more definitely as we do plan to move to Japan after I have enough experience on my business field as I am graduating this coming June with my bachelor´s degree, and it is vital to not only learn the language, but the culture and mentality most importantly not only of Japan, but of any country and respect it especially.
I do have a few questions to ask any of you and arigato for your answers in anticipation. Are there many Latinos in Japan? How big is the Latino community in Japan? Is it common in Japan to find Latino man-Japanese girl couples?
And the last question it does not apply to me as I am already engaged, but some of my friends in my country see I am happy in my relationship, and are interested in meeting Japanese girls not necessarily in Japan, but even in Mexico as we have a significant number of Japanese people living in Mexico. Their question is if Japanese are attracted or like Latino men? And what is the image of the Latino man or people in Japan?
Cheers and Sayonara, amigos!
Very interesting. My Japanese boyfriend told me something similar about Japanese women: they are passive, cold, lacking passion, don’t touch/hug/kiss randomly, even at home. I don’t believe, that Japanese men or women are in general “cold”! Their behaviour is just, of course, influenced by their culture, where it is considered as inappropriate or embarrasing to show your feelings for another person so directly. Perhaps there is a lack of emotional, open conversation between Japanese couples. It doesn’t seem to be a big problem in mixed racial relationships, though.
Hi E.O.!
Thanks for sharing your story with us. I wish both of you good luck in your relationship. I hope it’ll work out for both of you.
It’s true that a LOT of Japanese women seem to complain about their husbands being too “cold” and not “affectionate”.
I’m not sure if Japanese people are that familiar with the “Latin lover” rumors. *g*
I wish I could answer your questions, but I don’t know how many Latinos live in Japan.
When I see other foreigners and someone looks like a Latino – it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s born in such a country, right?
Hi zoomingjapan:
First of all, my apology for replying to your message until now. I am on my last semester in uni, and I am very busy as graduating is my priority now.
No problem about sharing my story. I want to share it and hopefully be an inspiration not only to my fellow Latin American male colleagues, but in general for that matter. And thank you for the nice wishes.
Yes, my girlfriend often told me that Japanese men were cold and unaffectionate, and do not want a boring marriage where the man is away from home most of the time. Although she did noticed that among Westerners, Latin Americans and Southern Europeans are more romantic, passionate and affectionate in comparison to Anglo-Americans and Northern Europeans. Would you agree?
I personally think my girlfriend is right as I have lived equal amounts in my native Mexico and in the United States, and have Mexican, Argentine and Chilean friends as well as Spanish and Italian friends and I do see a difference in comparison with my American friends or British and German friends´behaviour. Neither one is better than the other, but there is a difference definitely in behaviour and mentality.
That is a good question whether Japanese girls know the stereotype of Latin American and Southern European men as Latin Lovers. I only know this stereotype is mostly known in the West (US, Latin America, Western Europe, Canada and Australia), but not sure if in Japan they are aware of it. All I know is that I am romantic and passionate, or so my girlfriend has told me that, and she loves it :3.
Well, Latinos we range a lot in phenotypes from blond, fair skin Nordics to black Africans. For example, I am a euro-mestizo (meaning that my racial admixture is predominantly Caucasian although I do have some Indigenous facial feature. In short, I look more Caucasian than Indigenous), whilst Julio judging from his photo, he looks like he could pass as Southern European even though he is of Mexican descent. My paternal grandmother she is Mexican but she is of 100% Lebanese blood. In Chile, there are many who are of German descent, Argentina has many Italian descendants, and Brazil has the largest colony of Japanese descendants outside of Japan.
In short, Latinos we do not have one look. We are multi-ethnic like Americans. Hope my explanation is helpful :)
Oh, one quick question: How does a man proposes to his girlfriend her hand for marriage the Japanese way if you know? What setting is the most appropiate?
Cheers! Saludos :)
Hello again,
No problem. I’m glad you got to reply at all.
I don’t know. I mean, I can’t speak from personal experience. I only really “know” about Western European men. I think South European and Latin American men are more passionate, not sure if they’re also more romantic.
Also, thanks for the explanation. I think I understood it. *g*
You know what? I probably should step back and let the male commenters say something, but I just want you to know: It’s your girlfriend. You know her better than ANY of us. Don’t think about what the proper way for a “Japanese woman” would be, think about the best way for “YOUR GIRLFRIEND”. I’m sure you can come up with something great! And she’ll be very happy anyway!
Good evening, Zooming Japan!!!
Arigato for your understanding.
It is often believed that Southern European and Latin American men we are the passionate type. My girlfriend has often told me that whenever I speak to her ^^.
Well, I just wanted your advice of how to propose marriage to her the Japanese way because it seems that you have lived in Japan for quite some time, and I have respect for you in the proper way of how it is done. I just want some guidance, in the end, I will improvise it to make it original, hehe.
Say, do you think a Japanese company in Japan would be willing to hire a Latin American man like me as a business administrator? I ask because it seems they prefer more Anglo-Saxon/Germanic looking people than people from other backgrounds. Why do they have that fascination with the Anglosphere?
It is puzzling to me as in Latin America and Southern Europe, the average Latino or Southern European person does not think positively of people or the culture of the Anglosphere due to historical reasons and negative portrayals of Latinos done by Americans or negative portrayals of Southern Europeans done by the English.
Cheers!
I think if you have the right qualifications, then there shouldn’t be a problem.
If you think they might prefer someone else, then you might lack determination and motivation during the job interview.
THINK POSITIVE! Think that it’s YOU who they want. Don’t give up! :D
Hi E.O., there are in fact a lot of latinos in Japan. We have the second largest Brazilian community in the world. We also have many Peruvian and other Spanish speaking people. You won’t be alone if you miss your Spanish!
As for job opportunities, I’m not sure if you can find business administrative positions, but since you speak English, you can always find a decent job providing you have good experience. I wouldn’t say it’s easy but it’s not impossible. Check out online job postings and see what’s out there. I have many latino friends there and they seem to be doing all right :)